The Need to Control (others)

This has been one of the biggies for me all my life. I can't say I never do it anymore, but I do have a history of confronting the behavior and happily at times being able to just confront the desire. But it never seems to go away.

Is it in fact a part of the human condition to control and we just choose to apply it irresponsibly? As with some other things, I have attempted to use my need for control in positive ways. That seems to diminish the incident of negative or harmful ways I have tried to control others or myself.

Another quick note. The last lines of this discussion brought out the connection between trusting others and the need to control others. So if control is a lack of trust, then exercising allowing is another way of releasing self from the need to control others. (note I'm not advocating releasing self from the need to control. I firmly believe this is a human need that can be used in positive ways).

I attempt to open myself to allowing from time to time and it always feels right, but I can't say I have fully integrated this ability yet. Key word here is YET!